Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Everybody's Meetup: Dito Po Sa Atin

Everybody’s Meetup: Dito Po sa Atin
By yunesa


It is wonderful to find people with similar likes and interests. It is more wonderful to be able to meetup or meet eye to eye individuals whom you have exchanged emails with and communicate only via text, YM and online. Napakabuti na nagsasama-sama, nagkakatipo-tipon at nagkakaroon tayo ng pagdadaupang-palad especially during meetups. Bakit ba kailangang may mga organisasyon? May mga asosasyon? May mga committees? May mga pagsasama-sama? May mga teams? May mga groups? May mga meetups? Dahil lang ba wala tayong magawa? Or we need to show off to others? For popularity’s sake? To promote our products and services lang ba? Bakit tayo nagbibigay ng ating time, effort at pawis. sa mga bagay na ito? Bakit may meetup? Bakit usong-uso ang mga social networking even online? Merong Friendster. Merong Multiply. May Twitter. Yahoo Groups. Facebook. MySpace. At marami pang iba. Marapat na ang bawat isa ay makibahagi sa pagbuo ng mga pagsasama-sama na ang mission, vision, culture, goals and objectives ay iisa. When we join any kind of group, bear in mind that we are joining to contribute to a larger view and context than us. Hindi lang para makapag-promote ng business or i-advance ang ating career but ang pangunahing layunin ng bawat pag join natin sa isang group or even meetup ay para tulungan ang industry where we are involved at tulungan ang mga taong may mga katanungan at pasanin in the area involved. For example, kung may gusto tayong itanong or help regarding spa, massage, wellness or even in the realm of business and entrepreneurship- walang tinatanggihan o kinakampihan ang meet-up maliban na lang kung may mga masasamang elemento na gustong mag-promote ng hatred, violence or any business or product that involves something na hindi naman nakakabuti sa general health at environment. We are non-partisan. Hindi tayo nag jo-join para manggulo instead, we are joining because we want to help or receive help and learn from others. We should engage in a group to give relief, care and shelter. Hindi yung habang lamalaki at lumalawak eh nagiging mapanghusga, mapagmapuri at mapagmataas ang group. We need a revolutionary approach to helping and learning from each other. Dapat everything that we do eh yung nagtuturo tayo ng bagong pag-asa, pagbabagong-loob at pag-iisip. We do not need too much fighting, quarreling and division amongst ourselves kasi there is too much war going on sa mundo natin at palagay niyo ba na wise maki-halo pa tayo sa ganun? Almost nothing will sap your energy and passion faster than being with people you do not trust or respect or do not trust you or respect you in return. Enduring a place with toxic relationship is truly suicide and no one will care when you need help or start to go down. Nakakapagod yung ganung relationship. But a group that connects you with people you genuinely like, respect and admire is an enormous gift. A group like this will push you further and inspire you to be your best. Tama na at tigilan na ang crab mentality, ang tsismis at tuligsaan. Hindi na dapat ang ganyang uri ng mga character and attitude. Wala namang malinis talaga. Wala ni isa sa atin ang walang kasalanan. Palagay niyo ba ang pagkakalugmok sa putikan ng isang tao ay wala tayong kinalaman doon? Meron din one way or the other. We affect each other directly man or indirectly. Kaya pag nagrereklamo at nagsasabi tayo ng masama sa isang tao, tayo man ay nababahiran ng kasamaan. Like attracts like remember? Kaya nga we should bless instead of curse kasi nga yung masamang sinasabi natin regarding a person ay bumabalik din sa atin. We should forgive kasi hindi natin alam kung kelan tayo naman ang mangangailangan ng forgiveness. We should love even those people who are un-loveable and those who do not deserve it. Mahirap gawin pero yun ang dapat gawin.

Of course, the truth is, we cannot please everybody. May mangilan-ngilan na kahit anong gawin natin eh hindi talaga ma-ple-please. We cannot address every issue or concerns of everybody, siyempre, we are humans. Marami pa talagang dapat i-improve at gawin. Yung mga taong hanap ng hanap ng butas para masiraan tayo ng loob pero hindi naman gagawin yung mga ginagawa natin eh dapat hindi na pinapakinggan yan. Sa meetup you will feel refreshed dahil ang ma-me-meetup mo dito eh generally mapagtanggap ng walang patakaran, maamo, banayad, mabubuti at mga kaibigan… eh anong kasiyahan ang aabutin mo kung tsini-tsimis ka ng iyong kapwa? Mas mahigpit pa tayo sa Diyos. Ito na nga napapahirapan na ng husto ang tao, lumuluha, duguan- dapat mapahinga na dahil sa judgment ng tao at usig ng budhi. I-ju-judge pa natin at tutuligsain. Every meetup natutuwa ako na napapahinga ang tao mula sa takot na mapag-usapan, takot na matsismis at takot na maintriga. Sa meetup hindi na natin kailangang magbalat kayo at magsuot ng maskara, itago ang nakaraan at itago ang mga sugat dahil hindi yan pinaguusapan sa meetup. No back-stabbing, nasty gossip or mind games involved. Merong mapayapang relasyon na dapat maging modelong relasyon ng bawat isa online and offline. Of course everyone has different styles, methodologies at different personalities but we should accept our differences. Basta hindi lang yung nakakasira sa kapwa at dapat hindi nakakasira sa general peace and order of the group. I am grateful for everyone because 99% of the time, every time na aalis ng meetup ang bawat isa ang bunga nun is magaan ang loob at naging masaya, mapayapa, tahimik at panatag dahil lahat naman tayo gusto ng payapang buhay at pakikipagkaibigan.

You will find different people of various persuasions in diverse places especially online. Different personalities. Different characters. How do you deal with each one? Some suggestions:
People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of having hidden agenda. Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
The biggest people with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest people with the smallest minds, think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but only follow top dogs. Fight for some underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed over night. Build anyway.

Ang meetup ay para sa lahat, hindi namimili or nagtatangi. Walang patakarang pagtanggap as long as “tao” kang mag-join, alam mo at least mag email at gusto mong mag-add ng value to the lives of others. You are most welcome. Walang outcast. Even if you cannot afford to attend a meetup, as long as there is a sponsor, pwede ka naman mag-attend. Walang hinaharang sa pinto. Nung mga unang mga meetup nga lahat yun for free but we would like people also to take responsibility for their learning and experience kaya we are charging nominal fees na. Up to now, we do not charge anything to join online. Pagkakaibigan at pagsasamahan yan ang laging na e-experience natin every meetup. Gawing madali at huwag pahirapan ang pag-join sa group yan ang layunin din ng meetup. We support other similar groups that are sensible, ethical and moral and follow government rules and regulations. We support individuals who are doing business responsibly. We have to see to it that everybody is adding to the value of one another. We are not too strict or stringent. Hindi rin tayo too formal na kulang na lang magkaroon tayo ng bulak sa ilong at makiramay hehehe….but at least decent. Hindi tayo maselan sa mga malilitt na bagay dahil may pananagutan tayo sa bawat isa na makapagbigay ng tuwa at kapahingahan. Paano tayo makakapagpasaya at makakapagpahinga sa sinuman kung ang grupo ay parang pulis at intelligence network sumbungan dito sumbungan doon, tsismis dito tsismis doon, parang may inspector palagi, kailangan pumasa sa quality control, parang sanidad at quarantine. Kaya yung mga nagsusumbong at nag-re-reklamo laban sa isang tao, grupo at iba pa kapag kinakausap ako ang lagi kong sinasabi ay kausapin niyo ang taong iyon directly. As much as possible it should be between the two of them only. It’s their own private matter. Whether that be a personal or professional issue. Ang dinidibdib kong trabaho sa meetup eh yung pwede nating gawing mga activities at mag-isip ng mga paraan na kayang abutin ng aking kakayahan para lahat ay makinabang especially online. Hindi tayo nandito para humusga, kumampi at hinding-hindi ako pwedeng manggatong. Patuloy akong magle-lecture, sasagot sa mga emails, mag o-organize ng meetup, mananalangin at aasa na ang pinaka-mabuti ay mangyayari. Somehow in these times of fleeting relationships and false friendships, everything has been reduced to the bottom line of winning. It has stopped being about new ideas to create camaraderie, to help people and has taken on the identity of winning at the cost of impugning anyone not on our side. Paano mapapahinga at magkakaroon ng kasiyahan ang isang mag jo-join sa isang meetup or group kung puro espiyahan, sumbatan, manmanan, husgahan, tsismisan, imbestigahan at litisan? Walang mapapahinga pag ganito ang nangyari. Hindi ito dapat mangyari. Dapat laging mas mahalaga ang future kaya hindi dapat na mag-away at magkaroon ng division because the world is small. Why will you want to hurt someone if you will also hurt yourself in the process? One way or the other, magkikita-kita rin tayo- eh anong gagawin natin pag ganun ang nangyari? Magiiwasan? Mag de-dead-ma-han? Parang wala tayong nakita o naka-salubong, ang hirap ng ganung sitwasyon di ba? Life is short to waste on too much politicking and back-biting. Ang liit-liit kaya ng mundo. On the other hand, tama na siguro yung pagtanggap ng pagkakamali and surrender ourselves to restoration. Laging mas mahalaga yung darating pa at may pag-asa pa. Marapat lamang na maging mahigpit tayo sa sarili ngunit maluwag sa iba. Pagibabawin natin ang pag-ibig at paguunawaan. May mga pagkakataon talaga na nagkakamali o nagkukulang ang tao siyempre tao lang tayo eh pero hindi naman din dapat maging reason ito na maging wala tayong paki-alam kung nakakasakit na tayo sa kapwa.

Some parts of our mission here on Earth are shared by all human beings. Example, we were sent here to bring in more gratitude, more kindness, forgiveness and more love into the world. We share this mission with each other because the task is too large to be accomplished by just one individual.

When joining any meetup or any group for that matter, we become accountable to people other than ourselves. Ang meetup ay parang basketball at volleyball. Meetup is a team sport- it has always been. No one particular person even myself is a hero, because everybody is. Walang hero dito. You are the hero here at meetup hindi ako. Ako lang ang taga-organize. YOU compose meetup. This is not my group. This is your group, your team, your family. Walang kami-kami dito sa meetup lahat ay tayo. Tayong lahat ay both kapamilya at kapuso. Hehehe……Divorce and annulment is not an option. Dahil marami pa tayong dapat i-accomplish, dapat i-improve, dapat bigyan ng pansin at dapat gawin, we are not interested in politicking but in helping increase your value, everyone’s value whether that means through a meetup under the tree, inside the mall, a lunch or through seminars and workshops. With this being said, I am sharing an email forwarded to me by my good friend and colleague Brian Stone, from NY regarding the Five lessons to make you think about the way we treat people. 1 - First Important Lesson – The Cleaning Lady.During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz.. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one:'What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?'Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times.. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50's, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. 'Absolutely,' said the professor.. 'In your careers you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say 'hello.'I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy. 2. - Second Important Lesson – Who’s whoOne night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride.Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 60s.. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached..It read:'Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away.... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.'Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole. 3 - Third Important Lesson - Always remember those who serve. In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.'How much is an ice cream sundae?' he asked.'Fifty cents,' replied the waitress.The little boy pulled is hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.'Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?' he inquired.By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient.'Thirty-five cents,' she brusquely replied. The little boy again counted his coins.'I'll have the plain ice cream,' he said.The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies... You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.4 - Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path.In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand!Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition. 5 - Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts... Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister.I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, 'Yes I'll do it if it will save her.' As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then hisface grew pale and his smile faded.He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, 'Will I start to die right away?'.Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister ALL of his blood in order to save her but he had chosen to save her anyway.'Work like you don't need the money, love like you've never been hurt, and dance like you do when nobody's watching.' In the book, “Only the Real Matters”, by Francis Kong (p. 163) he said that in the US, “immigrants from other Asian countries have prospered because of the creation of their business federations and chambers. Groups like the American and Japanese Chambers of Commerce with its Korean and Chinese counterparts have sought the improvements of the lives of their overseas workers who, in turn, are committed to their organizations. What about the Filipino community? According to his story, it was observed by his friend that, every time three Filipinos gathered together, there would be five varying opinions. Debates and arguments would ensue and there would never be any agreements. Nothing would be resolved. Everybody wants to be the leader and only a few want to be followers. Little wonder the Filipinos in America, one of the biggest and most talented minorities, have hardly made a dent. They have so much, yet accomplished so little. Today, we see the Chinese own the food and noodle shops, the Koreans own the grocery shops; the Japanese own the electronics shop; and the Filipinos shop in all these shops.”

This story of our countrymen in America is tragic but it need not happen to us. We really have to put an end to this. In Philippians 2:3-4 Do nothing out of selfishness or empty conceit, but consider others better than yourself and regard each other as more important than himself; do not merely look out for your own interests, but also for the interests of others. The bottom-line is to exemplify ang halimbawa ng Diyos, ang kanyang standards at katuruan even in our careers and relationships with people. We should all be better NOT bitter- dito po sa atin. This is the way we do things here at meetup. This is the way we are. Para pare-pareho tayong gumaling, lumakas, bumata J, sumaya at nagtutulungan sa paglalakbay sa buhay na ito.

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